Sunday, August 2, 2009

Should I say something to her?

The other day, There this thing going on at the library, I have a friend who has been looking for free stuff to do with her son this summer so I invited them to go with us to the library. We were getting ready to leave and I was standing there talking to her before we left ( she drove her own car ) and we heard her son telling my daughter that she had rotten teeth ( must have been the lighting because my daughter has perfectly healthy clean teeth ) then started calling her rotten tooth. I could tell that she was really embarassed so I went over and told her in front of him that her teeth were not rotten and that she has a beautiful smile and while i was talking to my daughter I was expecting my friend to say something to her son and she didn't, I was so POed. Should I bring this up when I talk to her next? and if so what should I say?

Should I say something to her?
First, I would tell your daughter that this boy is a retard if he thinks her teeth are rotten. Have her look at pictures of clean teeth and some of rotten teeth...ask her which set of teeth hers looks more like. Then tell her the boy was probably picking on her because he's got a crush on her and that's what some boys do with girls they like (punch them in the arm, make fun of them, dip their pigtails in an inkwell, etc.)
Reply:Just let it go. Kids will be kids. If it continues I would say something. Just remember, sometimes parents think that there children are perfect. So this could easily cause conflict between you and your friend if you said something. So just choose your words carefully.
Reply:Next time you talk to her ask her if maybe the next time her son name calls someone and is rude, she she actually give him some discipline. Okay, you could be a little nicer. But that is basically the point of what you should say to her. Good luck.
Reply:mom, i rily dont know how it feels cos i m not a mom but people v said awful lot of things to me n i jus stood thre wishin g my mom wld say" my love,u r not ugly or a monster but creatd in Gods image n prfection"tel ur kid u r proud of her n she shld neva let any one look down on her.cos God dint make no junk.n pls confront the othr kids mother to train up her boy.as they say charity begins at home.tk care
Reply:You should definitely bring this to her attention. By her not saying anything to her son she is basically telling him that it is ok to insult and hurt people. I would just tell her that it really bothered you that she didn't say anything to him especially when your daughter's feelings are being hurt. Not to mention it was overall a very rude thing to say.Hope this helps.
Reply:Don't buy into the "kids will be kids"crap. Kids will be rude if the parents does not speak up and correct the child. Shame on the mother for not letting her son know it was a rude comment to make. Personally, yes I would say something to the mother. "I just wanted to let you know, that comment your son said really hurt my daughters feelings, and since it was said, she has been really shy with showing her teeth" If she has any common sense, she should say sorry. If it were me, I would say sorry, then have a talk with my child about other people's feelings. But I would have said something to my child right then and there.
Reply:most definatley say something to her, you have been friends long enough for her to be open to conversation.





try not to put your daughter in his company too often, he obviously has quiet an impact on her.





in the mean time, take your daughter to a dentist. when he comments on how great her teeth are, she will be proud of them.





everytime she brushes her teeth, compliment her on how great they are looking.





when you take family photos, make a point of her flashing her pearly whites... all these little things can help boost her self esteem again, and feel comfortable about herself
Reply:Let this one go. Your daughter will forget in time.





As for next time a situation like this comes up try, "Wow, that was uncalled for. I got the last one, why don't you handle this one."
Reply:Try to have your daughter to stay away from him.
Reply:i would tell your friend to contact a professional. Personally, I would not take suicide lightly.
Reply:Let it go. I'm sure his mother was embarrassed. This not the first nor the last time her son has been rude. This is most likely ongoing behavior. Explain to your daughter that his behavior was rude and uncalled for and keep as far away from this little boy and his mother as you can. You don't need to have contact with them.
Reply:So a kid teased your daughter...GET OVER IT.



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